Checking in With Yourself as an Empath
As students learn about being an empath one of the most important lessons to learn is your own energy. How do you go about learning what your own energy? The best way is to check in with yourself. Just as you ask a friend how they are doing; you need to ask yourself how you are doing. If you are feeling sad, ask yourself if this emotion is yours or not, if there are no reasons in your life to be sad, acknowledge the feeling and release it. Do this several times a day. You will get the hang of it. The other thing is to journal. Keeping a journal is very important. You can write down what’s on your mind, how you’re feeling about work, friends, family, etc. Write down your hopes, your dreams, whatever it is you want to write about. This journal is for you.
I will share something with you, I journal but not as much as I used to. There was a time I would journal everything that I was feeling, everything that I was upset about. But someone ruined that for me. They not only read what I put in that journal but was upset that I didn’t speak to them about it and when I did speak to them about what was bothering me this person was upset about that too! If this happens to you, go back to writing in your journal. I know it might be hard at first because of the betrayal but it will be worth it.
If you are feeling sad, it’s okay to feel that emotion. It’s okay to be angry, it’s okay to feel every emotion that you have. (don’t let someone tell you it’s not) the only thing is don’t live there. Cry, scream, yell or all three, get it out of your system and then pick yourself up and move forward.
Even those you think are strong have moments where the day isn’t perfect.
Everyone says I am strong, but I have those moments too. I allow myself those moments. I allow myself to feel the sadness, the anger, all the emotions that I have and then I figure out how to move forward. If you struggle with this, find a great friend who will listen to what you have to say, someone you can trust to not go and repeat what you said. I know it’s hard to find someone to trust especially when you may have people in common who might be part of your inner circle or part of a group you belong to and if this is the case find someone outside of that circle.
I wish I could tell you that those around you will notice and help you through it but sometimes they are the last ones to see there is a problem.
Something else to do to shift the energy that you are feeling, find something that makes you smile, and you enjoy doing. If you enjoy painting, paint, if you enjoy singing or dancing, find some great music. Go outside for a walk, if you can go to a park, go!! Find what makes you happy.